Do you LIKE YOURSELF?

Did you ever realise the difference between loving yourself and liking yourself ?

For most, I bet not. However, think about it now.

What if Susan loves her way of talking because she knows she can manipulate her way around and use her expression to get things done or deal with any kind of situation. She loves herself for being that resourceful. However, she doesn’t like her nature or expression because she is so aware of that manipulation going on there. So it’s like she will have to love herself without liking herself or even worse, she will have to love herself inspite of not liking herself.

Amit on the other hand, loves himself for being funny & loving but does not like his body because he is quite fat. His being funny is primarily derived out of jokes he cracks about himself or on his being fat that make people laugh. He loves himself for being able to use his weakness as his strength. Hence Amit must love himself at the cost of never liking his body.

In both these cases, what they love is not what it appears to be from the outside but rather it’s more than that. What Susan gets from manipulating her expression is control over her situations and her life. The basic need which is getting satisfied is that if I don’t manipulate my way through, I will not be accepted for who I am. So she uses her expression as a tool to sometimes be diplomatic, sometimes sweet talk to people, sometimes gossip aboit one to another, sometimes to highlight someone’s mistake and at other times to prove herself. All this, in her perception brings her acceptance from others and she is able to reach where she feels otherwise she wouldn’t have.

Similarly for Amit, being himself would have attracted him ridicule & insult for being fat. He instead started making fun of himself and started cracking jokes on himself only to appear like a cool, chilled out dude. This was seen as a funny thing by others and they started enjoying his company only because they could be brutally honest with him and they knew he wouldn’t mind because the guy had a good appetite for humour. Amit eventually also wants only acceptance from others for who he is, which he didn’t believe he could get by simply being himself.

Both Susan & Amit are internally suffocated in their own traps. They cannot break free unless they start liking themselves for who they really are. That can only happen when they accept themselves for their truth. If one accepts themselves, they naturally effortlessly are accepted by others. If one is unable to accept themselves, even though they can use othet means to get acceptance but that puts then in a state where they dislike who they are and that takes a toll on them in every way. Slowly they cannot love themselves for anything because their sense of self starts to get replaced with someone who’s projecting what they are not for the sake of others. In other words their sense of self is replaced by fakeness and that builds a very subtle yet deep disconnect in themselves with themselves.

The next time you stand infront of the mirror, ask yourself if you like yourself? Are you true to who you think you are? Or do you love yourself though you’d rather be like your neighbour or your best friend?

SPIRITUAL EGO

I have pondered over this quite a lot that when one says “they are spiritual”, what are they actually implying? Is it that, I am above the rest because I believe I am more connected with God, or myself or the universal consciousness or what?

It’s very common these days to hear these statements saying “I am very positive”, “I only look at the positive side”, “I am spiritual that’s why I have been able to forgive” etc.

What exactly is being Spiritual? I think its living in awareness of one’s ‘Spirit’. Ideally, that should have been our natural state of existence but given that we have created a lot of stuff on the way to becoming who we are today, it is a privilege if we can stay in the awareness of being a Spirit having a human experience. Considering that all of us are ‘Spirits’ nonetheless, maybe the subtle ego that people by patting their backs for their awareness also needs to be brought to awareness.

It is natural for one to feel ‘special’ or ‘different’ when they do something that others look upto. Maybe being aware of self is one such thing which inherently every soul seeks and is a need of the hour on this planet hence it has gained popularity to the extent that doing a few courses and learning a few jargons of the so-called ‘spiritual world’ is good enough for anyone to start commanding more attention from their peers.

Is it true? Do we actually become special if we live in awareness of self? Well, I think the most benefit out of our awareness comes to ourselves. It helps us stay grounded and empowered to deal with our life situations & relationships. It’s not that spiritual people can’t make mistakes or feel negative emotions, but they stand a better chance at handling their experience with grace if they live in awareness of their learning through the adverse experience.

What a spiritual person can give to others is not really for them to decide. The sun did not decide it will give light to earth and not to Pluto. Let what others receive be the prerogative of the receiver. Spirituality is meant to allow one to be themselves without the need to be externally followed or appraised since the sun doesn’t bother if any external light is falling on it or not. If one eventually wants to use the recognition & acknowledgment of others as their light then the whole purpose of being spiritual is really lost.

Spirituality is all about loving self & others. Lets only stay in love & allow love. Seeking more than that is an Ego that blocks the light of the Spirit within!

Infinity - The book that answers it all

After touching several lives in the most profound way through her account of twin-flame love through her first book ‘Maaya: A tryst with self’, the author now brings forth immeasurable wisdom yet again to transform the consciousness of each one who’s touched by this book.

Infinity is the understanding of the eternal cycle of evolution that a soul traverses & will continue to, while on its path to self-recognition on this planet we call ‘Earth’. It is a complete guided account of the evolution of souls in human form as conveyed by the goddess herself through a series of guided messages. The book carries infinite wisdom to understand the human life cycle from our spirit’s perspective. It addresses the mind, body, emotions, thoughts and interconnections between them. It allows the reader to understand every single aspect that affects their life and how by merely changing one’s perspective and realigning it to the higher perspective, one can make a world of difference to their quality of life & relationships.

This book intends to capture the entire soul journey in a way that is understandable by people who have had no spiritual background as well as those who have been seeking clarity on various concepts.

Infinity explains complex concepts like mental disorders, money, knowledge, karma, wisdom, death etc in a flow where everything adds up to convey the essence of human existence. I have used case studies from various clients I have worked with as a therapist to convey the various dimensions of life experiences offered as a part of an incarnation on this planet. This book can not only convey to the reader on how to look at their life & issues from a higher perspective but also helps them understand how they can be dealt with.

Infinity explains how healing of karmic memories from past lives or current lives can transform lives. It allows the reader to become more aware of their nature, character and reflexive behavioural responses to further understand their blockages in life. Any inner conflict once recognised can be healed and this is also one dimension the book succeeds in addressing. It introduces the reader to ‘Serenity Surrender’ or SS which is a path to self-recognition and which has had profound impact on the author’s perception of life as conveyed through the book.

This book is written in such a way that the author has an encounter with the goddess of knowledge who then reveals her journey of becoming the consciousness of earth to convey how it was formed and how it has been witnessing the journey of human evolution since times eternal. The author in the end realises why she was chosen as the one who will go through the respective experience.

Infinity is a beautiful account of all the wisdom the author has gained through several years of self-work & healing others. In her journey as a therapist & mentor, she has managed to understand the essence of a human life and this book is an endeavour to express the gist for anyone to embark upon their inner journey.

This book has the potential to invoke in the reader, the desire to know themselves at another level. It can also become a comprehensive guide in summing up all of one’s spiritual knowledge gained so far in a way that it is available & accessible for self-transformation.

Since it’s a non-fiction account wrapped in a fictional beginning & ending, it wouldn’t be suggested for anyone to read excerpts from the middle. I believe the topics are such that they can be understood & appreciated fully if read in the given order. This synopsis is only to give a glimpse of what the author intends to convey through Infinity.

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New Age Parenting

In today’s age, parenting consumes a lot of time for all those who have chosen to go through the experience. It’s not all rosy & involves a lot of stress, effort, money & even conflicts. I am not sure how many parents are actually able to enjoy parenting other than those few moments when the child gets highest marks or makes you a best parent greeting card. Mostly the concept of parenting is burdened with “responsibility” and this concept is so misunderstood in our energies that soon after the child is born, all the happiness and bliss is replaced with responsibility and stress.

Yes we have chosen to be responsible for another soul’s journey by bringing them to this planet but that’s not all. From the soul’s perspective, I have chosen to become a channel to facilitate the creation of another soul. Mind you, only a channel to facilitate. This soul might have been into different relationships with me in several lifetimes. In this lifetime, the sacred contract within me & my child is such that I will provide him / her with the right environment for it’s growth & facilitate the lessons it wishes to learn and in return, it will serve as a mirror to me for change. My child keeps me in touch with the changing energies of this planet.

When we see our children growing, there are times when what they think, believe or do is in conflict with our value system. At other times however, we see them making the same mistakes as us or carrying the same weaknesses as us. In both scenarios, we try to change them, to teach them the “right” way. This is why they are here. This is exactly why we chose them. They show us our inner conflicts in a physical manner. They trigger our inner conflicts and lead us to change. With age / time we develop belief systems like study is the only way to grow, or money is the most important thing in life, or fitness is all that can make you happy, or that god wants us to sacrifice and we just keep living them without realising when the era changes and there is need for change within us. This when parenting happens. Our children show us change in the society / culture / value system and they push us to accepting & embracing the new.

Those souls chosen as children, we have deep karmic links with and hence it’s tough to ignore them. The deeper our resistance to change, the deeper conflicts we experience with our parents or children.

If a mother comes to me saying my child is very weak in studies and cannot concentrate, please help her then I usually guide the mother to first do my healing workshop & learn to deal with herself and her belief system that gives her the understanding that without studying, her child will become unsuccessful. This isn’t to demean the value of knowledge in anyway but if the parent can address their fears that are presented through the child, in many cases if the child is too young and have not yet started living his own karma, the problem will be sorted by the parent healing themselves only. Further, if the child needs any healing, their energies can be worked upon too but since the parent has dealt with their fears & expectations, it allows the child soul to freely take a path that is for the highest best as per their plan. After all every soul isn’t here to do the same thing. Someone might need to be brilliant academically to reach where they have chosen to live their experiences while in other cases academic brilliance might be considered a hindrance & hence not required for whatever they have chosen to experience. What we fear for our children may mean something for us, which is why even parents of the same child do not fear the same for their child. They are focused at the aspect of self that the child reflects to them.

Responsibility does not mean we need to control the direction of the child. It just means we must be there to facilitate what’s needed by the child for their own growth. There are souls who have chosen to experience conflicts between parents in order to trigger their own internal conflicts with regards to marriage, society, mate, love, relationships also. I did mention in my book “Maaya: A tryst with self” that even though a child might be in a fragile body but it’s a whole & complete soul. It’s important to free our children of our own conflicted belief system & just guide them but not impose ourselves on them. Trust that the way you are connected with the source, so are they and they will also be guided to what’s best for them.


About the Author

Minal Arora: Minal is an Author, Therapist & Mentor. She teaches people on how to reflect on the basic idea of life from a spiritual perspective. She is also the author of the much talked about book ‘Maaya: A tryst with self’ which is an account on soulmate / twin soul relationships.  She practices New Age therapies like Past Life Regression (PLR) and Serenity through Surrender (SS) to resolve sub-consciously driven concerns and can be contacted through www.pastlifeconnection.com or www.healingcottage.in or by writing an email at minal@pastlifeconnection.com

Am i in the right relationship?

I am sure each person would have wondered at least once if they were in the right relationship? This is not to refer only to mate relationships but yes, very often that is the relationship that we find ourselves questioning the most.

While growing up, we were told that opposites attract each other & hence are best suited for each other. As we begin to experience ourselves through relationships, however, the opposites don’t seem to be so “attractive” anymore as we spent our lives with them. Why is that so? If that was true then why were we guided to accept them?

Let me try and show this in another light. Ever been to a mirror to tie shoe laces? Not really I guess.  Why? Because we can see our shoes and our shoes laces just by merely bending. So what do we go to a mirror for? We go to a mirror to see what we can’t see as clearly through our naked eye or maybe to get a better perspective. Similarly, those opposites that we tend to get drawn to, serve us as our mirrors in our evolution. They show us what we can’t see within or maybe what we need a better / higher perspective on. This way, they serve our growth in a big way & allow us to become better & more accepting individuals. However, it’s not so easy to live with them. When the mirror shows us something we’d rather look away from, it’s not easy to accept it as us. We are quick to blame, to resent & to believe what we chose for ourselves was indeed the “wrong” relationship.

Whatever we experience, good or bad, has a reason to exist in our lives and till we have learnt what it came to teach us, it stays & at times bothers us too. While in a relationship, it’s important to see what we are “being” while we are living that relationship. If a relationship is our biggest desire but while living it, we are mostly fearful of losing it, then we are “being” fear through it. On the other hand, a relationship which is abusive & we resent & hate it, while we mostly spend our time reminding us of our power & ability to deal with it, then we are being “empowered” through it. So from a higher perspective, both are serving us to show us something about us & also moving us towards self realisation. Once we align ourselves to witnessing ourselves while we are in any relationship, we can slowly understand & appreciate it’s purpose.

Understanding that something you don’t want / like has a purpose doesn’t really end the concern. The next step is to resolve / heal the relationship. For this, one can identify the reasons for why they attracted this relationship at a sub-conscious level through Serenity Surrender (SS) or Past Life Regression(PLR). Once done, these techniques are therapeutic and can help release the negativity in a situation / relationship / person & allow them to live in more empowered life.

For more details on healing, please refer to www.pastlifeconnection.com or write to Minal Arora at minal@pastlifeconnection.com

Proof Of Past Life Memories Being Real

Many of you would be wondering if past lives are real. Can we actually experience our past lives? Sometimes we might even question, why experience past lives? Isn’t living in the present moment the best thing to do?

The answer to these questions lie in further questions. Are you sure you understand all that is happening in your life / relationships? Do we all not have the sense of the presence of a force that stops us at times when we are close to getting what we want or for that matter a force that allows us to have something which we hadn’t imagined? Yes, weather we are logical or scientific, doesn’t matter but the unresolved memories of our past always interfere in this moment. It’s like they are very much “alive” in this moment and hence whatever we do or feel, they are able to contribute to it at the sub-conscious level.

Here have been many instances where people have been able to go to their past and experience things which they were unaware of in the current life but they were validated to have existed. Sometimes people start speaking languages that they don’t know in this life and sometimes even ancient languages which are extinct on this planet too.

Dr Ian Stevenson, Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Virginia Medical School, has spent many years investigating claims by several children across the globe that they could recall a past life. Some of them could see dreams of places that were not in their current environment or absolutely foreign. Some of them will even know names, the way they died and maybe who killed them. Many such cases were reported from India itself. Many of these children were under the age of 5. He interviewed over four thousand children from the United States, England, Thailand, Burma, Turkey, Lebanon, Canada, India and other places, who claimed that they could remember a number of incidents from a past life.

He verified documents, letters, places, autopsy records, birth and death certificates, hospital records, photographs, newspaper reports and so much more. For many of them physical verification was done in both their current place of existence as well as where they claimed they were living earlier. He has written several books on the “suggestive reincarnation” topic.

The last thing to remember is, if we believe, it’s a whole new world to explore and we might find answers that we always looked for when we open up to the depths of our past. If we are a non-believer, then also, we will live those unresolved emotions / those fears that come from nowhere and those setbacks that are unexplained. It’s just that we can deny facing it as ourselves.
For more details on Past Life Regression Therapy, please refer to http://www.pastlifeconnection.com

Past Life Regression – 7 Point Technique

When the topic is “Past lives”, well there are many who still believe that it’s unreal. Being a therapist of Past Life Regression, Minal Arora claims she receives cases on a daily basis that require and are healed through therapy while there are also people who want to undergo sessions for only finding out if it’s real that they can explore their past.

A few important points to be noted here are that regression is a process that usually uses hypnosis as a technique. Now the level of trance used in a regression is mild. It’s not that one will lose their consciousness etc like in stage hypnosis. This is clinical hypnosis which is very safe and very mild at the same time. The conscious mind is always at the background and it always is witnessing the process. Slowly as the story unfolds, the subject most likely will go into deeper level of trance where the conscious mind awareness lessens. However, this also depends on the past life being revealed, the depth of the memory. Sometimes, the interest level of the conscious mind can be low or there could be a resistance to experiencing something and hence it could interfere in the process. The success of a regression session is dependent on the level of trust & surrender that a subject can do both consciously & sub-consciously.

A few important points when you have booked a Past Life Regression Therapy Session with a therapist

1.    Always ensure that it’s a Past Life Regression “therapy” session. Taking someone into a past life is something that anyone trained in hypnosis can do, but handling the past life of a subject and guiding them to the right past lives for release plus the release mechanism used is very crucial.

2.    Ensure the therapist is trained in “Past Life Regression”.

3.    Do not expect anything from the session. PLRT is a release process and the release happens as the memory unfolds. How you will experience it externally on a conscious level or the amount of dramatics you will experience does not change anything in the release process. Be focused on the intent to release and trust it starts happening almost instantly as you reach the right level of trance.

4.    Trust your therapist to know what they are doing during the session. Sometimes, there are tricks that need to be used to pull out a memory or access some specifics or maybe even to experience a past life.

5.    Do not go for this therapy if you have money constraints. This is an expensive therapy and you will find therapists charging from 2000 INR an hour to 5000 INR an hour. Revealing a past life and healing it might take 3-4 hrs sometimes. If you are pressed for money, it means that sub-consciously there is already a need to derive value out of what you have spent . That expectation can put in fear / doubt in your session and bring disappointment. When you go for it, believe that there is nothing to lose.

6.    Remember that regression is a guided process and usually our spirit guides are guiding the session. Sometimes it’s called upon even to prepare a release where something might be so deep that it may fail to come-up in one go. When that happens, it’s also important and it helps the overall release process of a soul

7.    Trust & Surrender to your higher self. Just know that resolving past lives or the sub-conscious is a journey. Our unresolved past continuously impacts our present moment and a session will only initiate the journey. You must follow it through.

One excellent way of following up your spiritual journey which is more economical that Past Life Regression and has a much wider scope and effectiveness is using a therapy called “Serenity Surrender” or SS. If past life memories were put in a matrix of rows and columns, the rows are past lives and columns are emotions experienced. Regression will address it row by row which means you have to go through one past life and then another. SS will go emotion by emotion where you can resolve one emotion vertically across many lives. It’s extremely effective specially for people who are not good hypnotic subjects and carry fears / phobias / depression / relationship concerns etc.

For more information, please visit  http://www.pastlifeconnection.com

I was too busy to pay attention to my soul

This is what somebody said to me when they came to me for their first SS(Serenity Surrender) Healing Session. I laughed at both the irony & audacity of the statement. Later I realized we all do that, he was just brave enough to admit it. We live on an extremely beautiful planet 7 it has it’s charms. We have relationships, work & needs for self. 24 hrs a day isn’t enough & these days the speed at which time seems to get over, it feels not enough for all we wish to achieve an accomplish. In the midst of the struggle for the dream job or growing up on the succession ladder, in keeping one’s spouse & family happy, discussing news, taking care of social obligations and paying bills, where is the time to worry about the soul. When we can do without it, well, we might as well focus on what we can’t seem to do without. Isn’t that how we all thought once?

Now someday, for some this day comes much earlier in life & for some it may be much later but there is a realization slowly that seeps in, that what have I achieved in this life. When the rat race gets tiring, when success doesn't knock ones door or when success feels shallow, when they lose their most precious relationship or when loneliness makes them see an aspect of their reality that too much work couldn't hide, when there is an internal void, which doesn't seem to get filled with anything. When there is an inherent search for something. Some call it peace, some call it love, some call it happiness. With the extremely high energies of this planet, we all are going through an internal transition, inevitably so, in which no matter how engrossed we are, the focus is shifting to self. Till now, our evolution has happened through struggling through relationships, life situations & proving ourselves but that era is over now. The new energies aren't about proving ourselves but realizing that we were always what we are out to prove ourselves as. It is kind of a homecoming!

In this homecoming, anyone who believes looking within is a waste of time and may not be required is only under the illusion that they aren’t doing it already. Every moment that we live in our consciousness is our soul living through us. Each moment, the sub-conscious mind which the soul’s memory & processor is active and it is creating one’s life, in spite of them planning it in a completely different direction. It is just about when does one stop to look at their lives & realize they can’t make a choice to be experiencing their soul, since they are that but yes by choosing to look away from it, they only choose to struggle higher to learn their lessons in the physical world.

Every relationship, every life situation & every person only is here to show you what you can’t see for yourself but while you see it, if you are able to bring an understanding what they are trying to teach you about yourself, slowly, it’s an experience of immense empowerment & that inherent search finds it’s destiny!

About the Author -

Minal Arora is a renowned holistic healer & teacher who has been practicing & teaching therapy for many years. Her practice has helped countless many people who in turn have made impact in the lives of many people further as well. Should you wish to learn more, you are welcome to contact her through our official site; www.pastlifeconnection.com

FEAR

Today I realized ..our deepest desire carries the seed to our deepest fear. We keep chasing the desire and in the process keep bringing the deepest fear to the surface. One day, we can see the fear bigger than the desire itself. This is the point where if we choose faith and face the fear head-on, we can bring a transformation to our being. The desire may or may not be in line with our growth but that we'll know only when we get rid of the fear. We are able to see the desire unconditionally. At this point, if its there and we can just allow it to be, minus the fear and expectations, it comes to us in due time or our energies move on to the next stage in their evolution. If, however, we choose fear, we can stay in conflict and suffering for a long time, till we manifest a physical situation / circumstance where the fear shows us it's magnitude. At this point also if we face it, we can resolve it but it can get very intense and dis-empowering when dealt with feeling like a victim of one's circumstance.

Choosing faith over fear is the first step to moving towards victory over the fear.

Why should I bother with Past Life Memories?

Why should I go into my past? Why should I even care about my past? Why is my past relevant to me now? Hasn't it already passed? Hasn't it already happened? Why can't I stay focused on what is now?

These are the common questions that come in one's mind when the topic of "Past Life Regression" comes in. Well, yes, that which has passed should have no relevance or significance in the now. Unfortunately in the sub-conscious though, we carry that past which hasn't really "passed". It is that past which is still unresolved and like the memory of a bad fight or a bad relationship, it is carried over by the eternal data bank of our sub-conscious till we accept it as "passed" by letting it go. Go it can, only when whatever happened is forgiven and the lesson from it is learnt. Like till I have my question paper in hand, I have the choice to go back to unresolved questions and try and attempt them again in order to resolve them, till a memory is present, the sub-conscious has the choice & intent to go back to it to attempt to understand the lesson behind it. It is the most natural thing to do. This is the reason why so many things that we experience in 
this moment like instant dislike for someone, even when they haven't said anything to you, need to justify why something or someone wouldn't be favorable, fear of a situation / thing / person etc.

If everything would have been based on this lifetime's experiences then a child must always be fearless, a person should never attract anything negative and if it's random then people shouldn't really experience patterns or manifest what they feared the most. There is a very deep logic on which this universe operates but to understand dimension, it is necessary for one to be open to trusting & then allowing it to prove it's power rather than the other way around. Those souls who are able to live a life in awareness of the complete reality of their being, live an extremely empowered, almost magical life but for that, taking the first step out of one's shell & trusting it is key.

Past Life memories are unresolved instances in the soul's eternal journey that have been experienced with intense emotions, mostly negative but the soul who's experienced it has yet to understand and realize what it meant for it. It carries fwd each memory in the hope of someday, in a higher wisdom, it might just realize why something happened with it. It is extremely important to free one's current moment of it's entire unresolved or karmic past to allow it to be free to operate out of the present moment. Each circumstance / relationship in one's present, specially the ones which are stressful / disliked / not understandable or give suffering could have several past life memories related to the people / relationships / aspects involved that seem to stretch the person in all directions & hence making it extremely heavy & draining for them to deal with the respective situation.

To understand the concept further or to resolve your own lives / relationships / circumstances / blockages through therapy, refer to Past Life Regression Therapy & Serenity Surrender(SS) at www.pastlifeconnection.com or write to Minal at minal@pastlifeconnection.com 

Future “Progression” – Is it possible to know my future?

Well along with “Past Life Regression”, there is also something called “Future Life Progression”, which is all about going in the future and knowing what lies ahead. Although there is this concept & it works, as a well known past life therapist, Minal Arora suggests that one needs to carefully understand the whole concept before it is to be used.

Through a progression, one can be hypnotically taken to their future say 1 year hence, 5 years hence or 10 years hence. Entire details of scene can be derived depending on the ability of the client to trust his / her experience; it can fetch some very useful information about the projection of the future as per the current energies.

The idea of getting a progression done is not really to see a future or create blocks in the present but it is to understand the impacts of the decisions made in the present moment on their probable future. It helps people to closely understand their choices, relationships and their impact / role on their current life in the current moment and shift them if they receive adverse guidance through their progression.

It is extremely important to remember that our future is variable and it varies as per the choices we make in this moment. Whatever a progression shows, is what the sub-conscious energies make it as per the choices of now. Progressions are helpful to people who are at a critical milestone / decision making point in their life where they need to choose one direction out of two. Usually in such a case, I have observed that the experience of the projected future will show them which path will bring what for them. Although that is also only as per this moment and these situations and yet could help people willing to take a stand in life. Each choice that we make only leads to our growth and we only learn but the learning sometimes come easier and sometimes with a lot of suffering. In moments where it is difficult to choose a direction, this guidance can help in reaching the next stage of the choice.

It is also possible to experience one’s future lives. Of course there is no validation for these but there are world renowned therapists who have done progressions of masses and more than 70 percent people have seen similar times on this planet say 100 yrs hence or 500 yrs hence which validates that the mass consciousness does carry a projection of the future of their lives & this planet’s existence even in this moment.

Should we let being “real or not” be our criteria?  What is real? If you can see it in your “imagination”, it is as real as being real gets. We often believe too much in the mind and the physical reality but when looked at from above, this is also just one more reality. Whatever our energies believe in this moment & project, in that moment that is their reality as it will be created. In between if one makes choices that alter that reality, they can land-up creating a new ”future” as well.

If one can constructively use the information / experience of a progression then it can help them in this moment & this reality. It’s not about living in the future than the present but it’s about creating a better present through guidance from the future!

Life, family and relationships - A Conversation

So how did my soul decide to come to this planet?

When the eternal soul got entangled in the web of karma, so entangled that it was unable to understand how to resolve itself, it needed a mirror. This is when it was drawn to experience the physical plane. 

What's so special about the physical plane?

It gives you mirrors. It shows you what you carry within through your family, your relationships, your life situations and your experience with them. It makes you experience love when you carry love within and blame when you carry blame within. You cannot escape / run away from self for wherever you go, your karma follows! But it isn’t a punishment system, it’s a feedback system.

So what's so special about family?

Family is the set of constant mirrors that one manifests which one can hardly run away from. They show you different aspects of yourself in so many different ways. Through a spouse comes your relationship of love with urself, through a child comes your relationship of nurturing urself, through a parent comes your relationship with accepting your creation and so much more with each of them.

So does that mean I will always stay with my family and each member always?

Well, each relationship in one's life is a mirror to some aspect within themselves. When my relationship with loving myself will change, so will what my mirrors show me will also change. Every past / every block / every unresolved memory that I have ever experienced in loving myself through someone, through a difficult life situation will be surfaced. The reason isn't to hinder our progress but rather to facilitate it through the learning we've already had. It's only when that learning don't resonate with us in our current awareness do we experience conflicts. When conflicts arise, they bring discomfort in the form of pain, hurt, anger, blame and misery. 

So what to do when we feel like a victim? When we exp pain and misery?
• Bring awareness to self. The moment we drop any outward action...the blame, the pity, the anger and realize we are attracting it, it initiates the process of that energy dissolving itself.
• Bring complete acceptance of your reality. We usually only accept partial realities, because it's difficult to face our mistakes, our shames. Non-acceptance of this reality only prolongs the process of resolving the root cause of the misery. Forgive urself consciously for your contribution to the situation and accept everything unreasonably.
• Stop justifying your truth at the cost of others. Stop telling urself but what happened was REALLY wrong, or what so and so did was wrong, or what so and so happened is why all of it happened. Realize you ATTRACTED all of that you call wrong because at some level you only lack understanding of that aspect which is in conflict. By justifying the existence of this conflict, you will only energize it.
• Empower yourself by knowing you created this pain, this blame, this anger and it has arisen out of a conflict within. If you are it's creator, you can destroy it too.
• Create an intent to learn the lesson that misery brings through that conflict in the highest and best way. 
• Know it shall be done. One shall be facilitated. As long as one stay's focused inwardly, they can heal it at the deepest level and resolve it forever. This sort of healing will do two things. It will resolve that conflict at the soul level forever hence stopping itself to attract it again and it will expand the conscious awareness of your soul so that it does not create further karma based on this conflicted understanding.

Do our relationships last forever?

Yes they do but not necessarily in the way we perceive them. They transform, they evolve as we evolve. If A and B were married 20 years ago, they have served each other as a mirror for that time. When their relationship would have begun, in most cases, they would have started by seeing the love that they carry for themselves through the other and hence experienced love for them. When love is experienced by a soul, it will also surface it's lack of understanding of love, the rejection it's felt as lone, the betrayal it's felt through love, the suffering that love brought and the unforgiveness for self above all to allow it happen to self. All of this comes up not to bother one but for it's all what the soul believes love is. Now if the soul believes love is betrayal and unforgiveness, it will manifest / attract them through a life situation / relationship / person. It won't be easy to face and accept the betrayal as one's own. There will be a need to disown it, to blame, to justify it was never my fault but all of this will never even begin the healing process because one will be defying the basic principal of the 'law of attraction' which works all the time...we are the soul magnets...we attract everything BUT from the sub-conscious level.

If A is able to stay focused inwardly, he/she will be able to heal their relationship with B because B was only a mirror to what A carried within. BUT, their relationship will also transcend to a new level now. If B is able to make the same journey inwardly and both meet at a point of self-love and compassion, they will stay in compassion and in a mutually agreeable relationship forever. However if A makes it and B doesn't, then A will be facilitated out of the situation and inspite of B's need to hold-on to A, the universe will resolve it for the one who's able to forgive oneself.

In either case, the relationship MUST go through a transformation because one learns deeper about loving themselves as they move fwd. What A could see through B 20 yrs back was what A could understand about loving self then. In 20 yrs both have learnt deeper about loving themselves and hence what they see through each other is only a deeper understanding of loving self. The deeper you go, the more intense it gets and hence the gravest mistakes / lacks will also surface. This only facilitates further depth. 

The need of A to hold-on to B or B to hold-on to A...the need for A to stick to the relationship 20 yrs back or B for the same is only non-acceptance of themselves in this present moment. It is bound to give misery.

Love never meant possessing, holding-on...love only meant allowing self and the other to be. It also means if the one you love has a role to play in your journey and you have in theirs, it will be facilitated lovingly so. If not, realize that your energy is guiding you to rise above it and find yourself through other means. Love isn't and cannot be forced. If one loves self, they will experience love from everyone around naturally and effortlessly so.

What's the final crux of this conversation?

Finally, if you want the mirror to show you differently, the only way is to change it within. Life is about moving fwd in complete trust that whatever is needed for one's growth, will be attracted. Holding-on to any person / relationship or life situation only brings misery where letting it go in complete trust and surrender expands the love we carry within and our experience of love too.

Forgiveness for self and others is key. Life is an experience. It grows and changes mirrors. Accept change. Accept the flow.

2012 - The New Age Shift, as I understand it!

This is an year old article that I am posting on the blog from my facebook notes - thought it's all the more relevant now!

There was so much of diversity of opinions about what would happen in 2012. I have talked to friends whom I believe know more than me on the subject and also read a lot on 2012. When I looked around at the Volcanoes that were erupting, the Tsunamis, the earthquakes, something told me the shift had already begun. Over the past few months that I have been practicing connecting with the creator and my higher self, my understanding about 2012 was growing. I just thought I will share my understanding about 2012 from whatever stayed as an impression from my own inner guidance and what others shared with me and see if it makes sense.

The earth's vibrations were rising at a very steady pace. Various methods of measurement created varied results but there was enough evidence to show that the vibrations had already risen significantly and they were increasing rapidly. Earth's vibrations are like "heartbeat" to the earth. With higher vibrations, the normal 24hrs in a day will finally leave up to only 16 hrs in effective earth time, which is why we probably experience this need to hurry in us. This phenomenon also brings about migraines, back aches, muscles pain, chronically tiredness, cramps, flues and other symptoms in the human body. It is even predicted by many that the DNA of humans will be reprogrammed when the vibrations reach the maximum which is expected to be in 2012. This will mean higher human consciousness, third eye opening, and enhanced ability to connect and experience the divine and greater understanding of their subconscious mind by all humans.

Each person who is on their evolution journey will experience great amount of shifts in their consciousness and connectivity with the life force energy. Mayan calendar didn't predict this planet to survive 2012. My opinion was that the earth will survive it, thanks to the great shift in consciousness to save the planet and raise our own personal energies but the mass destruction and removal of a substantial amount of negative energy is inevitable. There are different types of souls right now on the planet. There are aliens, who have come to help save this planet via technology that they possess and we don't. I had read news recently about a Chinese airport being shut down because of UFO sightings for 1 hr the other day. Australia is a hub of UFO activity for some reason. Some of my Australian friends and whom I believe to be much evolved souls had shared so many experiences with me where they have regressed people and they seem to venture into other dimensions of time or space and they speak diff languages and do stuff we haven’t had the capacity or opportunity to do as yet. Initially these talks sort of scared me but now I understand its all for the good of this planet.

2012 is a great historic event for this galaxy and many souls are attracted to witness and be a part of it. Many souls have reincarnated, especially to participate in this shift and make their contribution to saving this great planet. We have Indigo, Crystalline and Rainbow children who are an integral part of making this happen. Many souls who have been on this planet for a while but have not been able to contribute positively to the planet will now be forced to leave this planet and go elsewhere to complete their karmic journey. Many divine souls are here just to experience this shift and go. They have subconsciously placed themselves at sensitive energy centres where they will become a part of the energy moving out of this planet. Many souls have planned to be a part of the new world so they will stay on and grow. Every person who is spiritually evolved and connected will be able to help others around them to raise their vibrations and survive the change.

Shivi shared this knowledge with me and I found it to make so much sense. Right now we are living in the 3rd dimension. From 2012 onwards, we will move to the 4th dimension, triggered by the polarity of the planet reversed and the many impacts of it. Right now, the process of manifestation is thought followed by creating an emotion for it, then action on it and then manifestation. In the 4th dimension, it will be thought, emotion and manifestation. Since we are getting closer to the shift, for many people who are working with higher vibrations anyway, this has started happening.

In 2013, that is when we enter a new world of positivity and divinity, we will be shifted to the 5th dimension. The manifestation process will be further shortened with even the need to create an emotion going away and directly thoughts will have the power to manifest something in the physical reality. Obviously we will still have our karmic journeys and whatever is in our best and highest good but manifestation will be more straightforward and will be directly linked with the power of our thought.

Karmically, a lot of people and faiths have been waiting for 2010 to arrive. On the evolution journey, with all these planetary changes, people are magnetically driven to resolve their karmas and clean their energies. These include all past life karmas and all beliefs that we carry in our subconscious minds as a result of the distortion through earthly experiences. A rise in spiritual levels is very evident around us and more and more people who were highly logic driven can be seen getting drawn to exploring their inner divine self.

It is almost as if someone is holding this big magnet for impurities in the heaven and all our impurities, negative energy, beliefs against us or others are getting pulled out of our energies and merging into the divine. It's about allowing that what is not serving us for our best to go.

The message is to "STAY IN LOVE" and "BE FROM THE HEART" as reminded by a friend. It's not important to make a conscious contribution but to let the guidance within flow and let transformation happen effortlessly. My idea of this note for us to remember that we are been given the opportunity to be a part of this celebratory event in the universe and the least we can do is BE OURSELVES in all the senses of that phrase and live a life of compassion for all taht there is.

Growth or Evolution ?

Growth is what can be seen while evolution is what can be trusted. Growth is what is perceived by others while evolution is what is experienced in each moment. One can grow much faster than what they can evolve to and it maynot be if one is growing they are actually evolving too.

Most of the growth happens in the preparation for evolution. Once the preparation is done, evolution needs space and energy to happen and be lived. Till we shed our need for growth, we may never see the evolution that is happening underneath. Once a step in evolution is complete, growth happens at the deeper level for it to be felt externally too but it may fall short of one's expectations if they measure it with what they perceive to be growth.

Both are about moving fwd but growth is based on comparison. It doesn't serve as a measure for appreciating self in absolute terms.

It's a lack of understanding which makes evolution less evident in the physical reality than growth. As one evolves and they learn to love and accept self, they grow in every way and aspect. It's important to trust one's evolution to reach till their physical reality moves fwd to give them whatever they believe will give them joy.

Manifestation

I realised today that I have gone through an entire journey of manifestation in my own personal life and there so much I have to say with regards to this topic. I wouldn’t say I have done all of it in my own strength but yes, I would like to share my personal understanding of manifestation and it’s cycle from how I see it.

Day in and day out I meet new people due to my work as a therapist and all I see is the entire journey is about manifestations or the failure of them not happening. The way I see it, as said my Paulo Coelho once, the moment we ask the universe for something, every bit of it conspires to help us manifest that. My learning is that every single thought is manifested the very moment it is created in our energy. The next question will be then why, we have so many unfulfilled dreams. Well, at the same time that we create those thoughts to fulfil our dreams do we create an equal or more amounts of thoughts of fear or doubt for it happening.

Here I believe most of the times, the fear or doubt may not be actually coming from our own conscious awareness but from some underlying beliefs in our subconscious mind. What we manifest is a combination of the energies we create for it to happen and what is in our ultimate good. If something is not in our ultimate good at the moment we are trying to manifest it, it may well happen in divine timing when it will be aligned to our soul evolution.

I just believe in the guidance of the soul which comes through the heart and if we are true to it, all we have to do is trust it and follow. I have been suing Serenity Surrender for a while now, which is the highest level of healing modality one can discover to karmic cleansing. Initially, when I met Shivi Dua, who is the founder of the technique, I wasn’t so sure as to what this could do for me. It were Shivi’s energies that drew me to her but slowly, when she helped me see through my blockages in my subconscious mind and release them, a new sense of happiness, freedom started dawning on me. I finally landed up on the Serenity Surrender workshop and learnt it for myself and life has never been the same again. In the 100s of lives that we have lived, there is so much clutter we have deposited in our energies that stops us from manifesting love, relationships, money, peace and above all, happiness.

Slowly, by working on myself and others, I have been able to get closer to the cycle created by the creator and have come to appreciate the way this universe works and our own soul journeys. It has this amazing logic behind it and it is such a relief to realise there is so much sense to the mess around us and all we need to do is clear our vision to be able to see it in perspective.

Manifestation needs to first happen in our thoughts and then all the blocks of fear and doubt with regards to the manifestation need to go for it to become a physical reality. It is possible for all, just needs enough conviction and faith in the divine. This is all my personal opinion and many could choose not to agree with me but somehow, I felt like sharing my journey to understanding of how to realise my dreams!