Showing posts with label uncontional love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label uncontional love. Show all posts

Saturday, August 25, 2018

Kindness



When someone screamed at me with no fault of mine, instead of screaming back I gave them a glass of water, considering that maybe they are having a bad day. This is kindness!

When I saw someone without food, I shared my food with them while talking to them about their life & hardships. My intention wasn’t to demean them by giving them the food projecting it was surplus but instead was to share my food & their hardships so as to unburden both our souls. This is kindness!

When I saw my friend being insulted or mocked, neither did I participate in the mockery, nor did I defend the one who was insulted. I instead chose to empower my friend by making him realise that he was insulted because he carried some expectation of respect from others while not respecting himself. I taught him that respecting self takes one beyond anyone’s insult or mockery. This is kindness!

When I know my partner is lying to me, instead of confronting them or exposing them, I allow them to be. Once I understand why they are afraid of revealing their truth to me, I instill trust in myself & in them to face the truth. I walk with them holding their hand into their hiding & help them slowly walk towards their truth. This is kindness!

When I saw a blind man cross the road, instead of holding his hand, I walked with him placing full trust in his ability to find his way & yet knowing I can contribute when the universe wants me to. I didn’t want him to feel dependent on me & yet I didn’t want him to be hurt for being blind. I chose to become his eyes when he needs an extra pair without demeaning his current potential. This is kindness!

My child argues with me, fights with me, shows me how old, frail & outdated I am becoming. I see his struggle to survive with me, I see his need to break free, I see how tough it is for him to put-up with my old ways, I see how he is with me for he needs me. Yet, I push myself to give my best, I do my best to keep pace, I allow myself to be useful & I try my best to justify it through love. This is kindness!

My mind plays tricks with me every day, making me believe what it says is exactly what will happen today. Each day, it fails me since most of what happens isn’t what it tells me & most of what it tells me isn’t what happens. Yet, I forgive & forget each day to trust it all over again afresh each morning. This is kindness!

My destiny brings me hardships & challenges each day. I don’t usually get what I want and I don’t usually want what I get. I struggle very hard to come to a point where my life the way it is, is acceptable to me. Yet, I trust my destiny with my future & give it the power to create another lesson, another learning, another struggle for me to transcend, with grace. This is kindness!

Kindness is one’s ability to stay who they are & never allow the love inside to get tainted irrespective of their surroundings or their situation. It’s one’s ability to be anchored in love & be unreasonable about it. It is about uplifting others & self to continuously be rooted in compassion. Kindness moves & inspires people to recognise the inherent love that they carry. It allows one to go on, just on & on, like a love filled beautiful melody that fills the air with a certain peace & serenity while it lasts.


Saturday, August 8, 2009

love

Almost all of us have sometime or the other pondered about "what is love". Well, I have been thinking of an appropriate definition for love but havn't arrived at a conclusion yet. Is it the feeling where you want to be with someone all the time, when the person isn't there, you miss him/her but even when the person is around, they occupy the maximum space in your heart and mind OR is it a settled feeling of having someone in your life who will always care for you, always be there for you, no matter what.


Well, the definition I have realised isn't so simple and neither can it be generalised. I have been wondering if there were various types of love...like there is one love that is all exciting, all encompassing, where you can't seem to to see or think anything beyond your lover....its the love that is blind as they say and it brings excitement & hormonal changes to your body and life. Then, there is one which is settled. It is there and it will always be and with every passing day, without us knowing it...it increases a tiny bit in proportion...it becomes more mature and profound...it becomes a part of us without us knowing how much we value the relationship or love...sometimes we know it and acknowledge it as well, while sometimes we take it for granted. Then there is another type of love, which is one from the soul...which happens in the most unlikely circumstances and yet tends to complete one's soul...it is the kind of love which has the capability to transform those involved...usually sets or changes course of one's life. There could be many more kinds of love which I may not be aware of but all of them are true and they exist. Sometimes, the same relationship with one person to change its type from one to another with passing time.

Yes its true that we all are looking for love, for eternal love...but the question is...is it really very important to get or have someone to complete you...do we seek love to complete ourselves because we think we are incomplete in ourselves or is it for our need for constant support, moral and emotional? Sometimes I have seen, in the quest of love or completeness, people get so lost that they almost make it a purpose of their life.

It's important for each of us to realise that everyone is alone...we have come to this life to fulfill the purpose of our souls which we shall need to do alone. Once we understand and be at peace with what we are and accept our own strengths and weaknesses, and start loving ourselves...that is the point after which whoever we find love with, it will be a fulfilling relationship because it will not be based on incompletness of any kind but unconditional, no expectations love.

Don't know if that made any sense but just felt like writing this one today and this is entirely my opinion.