Saturday, August 25, 2018

Kindness



When someone screamed at me with no fault of mine, instead of screaming back I gave them a glass of water, considering that maybe they are having a bad day. This is kindness!

When I saw someone without food, I shared my food with them while talking to them about their life & hardships. My intention wasn’t to demean them by giving them the food projecting it was surplus but instead was to share my food & their hardships so as to unburden both our souls. This is kindness!

When I saw my friend being insulted or mocked, neither did I participate in the mockery, nor did I defend the one who was insulted. I instead chose to empower my friend by making him realise that he was insulted because he carried some expectation of respect from others while not respecting himself. I taught him that respecting self takes one beyond anyone’s insult or mockery. This is kindness!

When I know my partner is lying to me, instead of confronting them or exposing them, I allow them to be. Once I understand why they are afraid of revealing their truth to me, I instill trust in myself & in them to face the truth. I walk with them holding their hand into their hiding & help them slowly walk towards their truth. This is kindness!

When I saw a blind man cross the road, instead of holding his hand, I walked with him placing full trust in his ability to find his way & yet knowing I can contribute when the universe wants me to. I didn’t want him to feel dependent on me & yet I didn’t want him to be hurt for being blind. I chose to become his eyes when he needs an extra pair without demeaning his current potential. This is kindness!

My child argues with me, fights with me, shows me how old, frail & outdated I am becoming. I see his struggle to survive with me, I see his need to break free, I see how tough it is for him to put-up with my old ways, I see how he is with me for he needs me. Yet, I push myself to give my best, I do my best to keep pace, I allow myself to be useful & I try my best to justify it through love. This is kindness!

My mind plays tricks with me every day, making me believe what it says is exactly what will happen today. Each day, it fails me since most of what happens isn’t what it tells me & most of what it tells me isn’t what happens. Yet, I forgive & forget each day to trust it all over again afresh each morning. This is kindness!

My destiny brings me hardships & challenges each day. I don’t usually get what I want and I don’t usually want what I get. I struggle very hard to come to a point where my life the way it is, is acceptable to me. Yet, I trust my destiny with my future & give it the power to create another lesson, another learning, another struggle for me to transcend, with grace. This is kindness!

Kindness is one’s ability to stay who they are & never allow the love inside to get tainted irrespective of their surroundings or their situation. It’s one’s ability to be anchored in love & be unreasonable about it. It is about uplifting others & self to continuously be rooted in compassion. Kindness moves & inspires people to recognise the inherent love that they carry. It allows one to go on, just on & on, like a love filled beautiful melody that fills the air with a certain peace & serenity while it lasts.


24 comments:

  1. I don't have words to appreciate the way you have threaded each para and example into a beautiful Garland of Kindness.
    You have a knack to touch the core.
    Love n hugs.

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  2. Very nicely written article. Kindness explained so simply yet powerfully. Thank you

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  3. I am soo overhelmed reading this beautiful piece..so many emotional cords detangled..Soulfood..Nidhi sablok..

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  4. This is just so wonderfully written..got me teary eyed..we all encounter such moments, but sometimes we fail to recognise it as kindness! Thanks for bringing it in awareness��

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    1. You are kind with your words. Thank you πŸ˜‡πŸ’–

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  5. Quite powerful. The last paragraph answered a lot of inner questions of mine regarding my self. Thank you.

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  6. Sooo true...!! It is so important to empathise...b gentle..kind n b tender...!!Empowering self n d other.. Beautifully written😊

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  7. So beautifully said, Minal.I needed to hear this to validate some parts of me which live my life this way and also to develop kindness in areas where i am not.

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    1. Thank you. I know what you mean πŸ˜‡πŸ€—

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  8. I have goosebumps reading this. I want to these words to stay with me every moment to remind me that I can be kind towards life every moment. Kindness in every. Lovely!!
    Never thought it this way.

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  9. Deepti Priyadarshini KabraAugust 26, 2018 at 7:07 PM

    Today you removed another veil off my eyes to make me understand kindness a little better ... The relate the most to the blind ... Because I believe we are yet to fully see what we are and as we walk this journey on physical plane , we need to trust that we have the ability to see as much as we can! You are a true teacher !!

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  10. I had been wondering about what it truly means to be kind for a couple of days and you have expressed it beautifully Minal!

    I realised just how powerful your writing is when last night my husband and I found ourselves in an emotionally charged moment. In that instance, I recalled your lines and where I would have gone with feeling unacknowledged and upset I instead chose to go with kindness. And in that moment something within me melted away making more space for love.

    Powerful stuff.
    Gratitude, from the bottom of my heart, Minal ��

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    1. That is sooo amazing. If we can actually remember these small things, life becomes so much more effortless and worth living. Thank you for sharing your experience Maarisha. It was your request that I wrote this post & I learnt so much from it so thank you :)

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  11. Very beautifully explained kindness .. with appropriate examples .. great compilation of words and thoughts

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  12. So beautifully explained the actual meaning of kindness..while reading its like the river flowing in me n unfolding many parts.. thanks dii

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    1. Thank you. I don't know your name since it shows unknown but am glad you could relate to the article :)

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